“Life’s Downfalls; Forgiveness Versus Acceptance” Part 1 of 3


Aristotle wrote:

“All human actions have one or more of these seven causes: chance, nature, compulsion, habit, reason, passion and desire…”

 Life isn’t set in stone, nor is there a single book out there to guide you through it. Life is going to happen whether you’re ready for it or not. Prevailing from downfalls during tough times can be costly towards a person’s quality of life if one is not prepared to face circumstances head-on. Whereas another may choose their own path with a more optimistic frame of mind towards achieving the best possible outcome.

Life is full of downfalls, as well, life can be very uplifting filled with joy, happiness and sometimes bring calm into our lives with simply feeling content. Life may feel humble or perhaps candid at times by placing differences aside with those we remain close to in our lives. We are given the greatest gift to acknowledge that we don’t have to stay down in a dark cloud of turmoil where at times life may feel overwhelming.

It’s up to each of us to figure out how to improve our situations that sometimes comes with limited knowledge or instructions.

We are often our worst critics and we may at times become very cynical of ourselves. Negative thinking may at times consume a person by simply spending too much time in their heads. It is within prompting events in our lives and/or unfortunate circumstances that we sometimes cave in or give up and lose faith within ourselves.

Often times we require more understanding within ourselves to break cycles and/or habits that sometimes keep us stuck. Whereas one were to acknowledge pros and cons to situations that come about in life, this may become ones greatest strengths; ones virtues within core values.

We become our worst enemy when we cannot find within good faith in ourselves and/or reasons to believe in a reasonable version of truth illustrated by ones thoughts. Downfalls within our emotions state sometimes tumble and spiral out of control.

Negative self-talk can lead a person to believe their situation warranted certain emotional responses. The question remains as to “what will it take to challenge a negative thought and replace it with a positive thought that we sometimes fall short upon?”

There are thousands of books, articles and web pages you can surf on topics that can shed some light on what might otherwise be reasons to believe. But if a person cannot absorb the information that is provided and truly understand what is being said without placing judgment on it, then the information becomes a lost cause. This may at times create unforeseen havoc in our daily lives.

A person can spend a lifetime living dormant while subconsciously creating what one believes to be true. It is possible without awareness to turn on a psychological automatic pilot through life’s journey. We may at times subconsciously be unaware of perceived illusions we’ve created within ourselves. We may challenge our belief system with judgments and lose sight by creating barriers from unforeseen truths.

Our reality created from within at times can mimic oblivious attempts to wash away or forget our sorrows. It may perhaps be attempts to make us feel better with some joy or happiness. 

Decades can pass with attempts to justify possibly misconceptions that we may have leaded ourselves to believe.  Perhaps it may have been family, friends or loved ones that lead a person to believe things we sometimes say or actions one has taken upon ones-self. Whereas if one were to acknowledge that perhaps communication sometimes fall short upon us all.

A great quote by Rainer Maria Rilke:

“Do not believe that he who seeks to comfort you lives untroubled among the simple and quiet words that sometimes do you good. His life has much difficulty… Was it otherwise he would never have been able to find those words. “

Sometimes in life when we succumb so far into our own demise we will find ourselves in need to create a safe haven. It is in times of need we sometimes create notions within ourselves that we are helpless to overcome or embrace life’s challenges. At times we begin to feel and place thoughts in our minds that we couldn’t have gotten very far without the guidance of someone in our life.

Perhaps you have admiration for someone in your life and place them on a pedestal as a savior in some divine way. At times we may feel lost without someone significant in our lives. We may at times admire someone by creating a martyr effect from our thoughts and place them on a pedestal above with such greatness.

Religion and spiritual beliefs can be recognizing by those whom choose to practice within one’s own beliefs. Regardless of who may be your higher power, humanity wasn’t created, nor does it acknowledge any person to be supreme beings. We cannot allow ourselves to pass judgments upon ourselves when situations arise. Nor is it going to benefit anyone to place judgments on life’s downfalls, but rather we embrace each situation with a sense of acknowledgment.

Communication errors from written content may at times become a primary reason as to why it has become difficult to communicate effectively with others.  It’s an unfortunate occurrence that may blind us further from truths.  At times we may have felt too busy to return a call, responded in such swift and subtle ways. This can lead us to miscommunication where we at times limit our time rushing from one moment to the next.

Changing the way we communicate with others will help us to grow within terms we may have once established. Technology has accelerated rapidly. What may have been up to date two years ago may no longer be sufficient and up to date.

Having compassion to understand someone else’s needs and desire to communicate will require us to grow together as we continue to move forward.  Life is a revolving door, compassion and understanding go both ways.

Fundamentally it does also require us to carry this same compassion and understanding within ourselves. This same basic concept would need to set forth to build and strengthen a solid foundation within ourselves.

 

Holistic Mind, Body & Spirit:  

“Forgiveness through acceptance”

A quote by:

Mary Wollstonecraft Shelly

“Nothing contributes so much to tranquillize the mind as a steady purpose-a point on which the soul may fix its intellectual eye.”

 

A person can travel far pondering on the word “forgiveness.” For many defining the word forgiveness can be challenging within itself, stuck on a word that may be too heavy near someone’s heart. Perhaps forgiveness might capture a person’s inability to let go of emotions that may derive from unfortunate circumstances in their lives. Forgiveness may be hindered by ones emotions of events or perhaps misplaced projection of their failed attempts to attain a more meaningful outcome towards forgiveness.

It is often heard and understood that forgiveness comes from within. That forgiveness is to find strength carried out from within to achieve peace, solace and surrender to ones habitual ways. To allow ourselves to relieve burdens that may hinder us from moving forward. But sometimes finding forgiveness is easier said than done…

The question remains “when might it deem necessary to seek an alternative remedy towards forgiveness when it keeps someone stuck and unable to move forward?”

One might find themselves asking “is forgiveness possible or perhaps am I tranquilized by thoughts under the assumption everything should be forgivable?”

We’re reminded of these circumstance that hinder our ability to forgive, the amount of energy a person may consume within their thoughts may dwell or perhaps fester inside unable to achieve forgiveness sometimes stated by notions within ourselves.

Terminology at times can render a person to relieve these heavy burdens carried within when he/she can reason within their own core values. Sometimes memories of these circumstances become so heavy a person might find it difficult to live in the present moment on a day-to-day basis without emotions that may still fester, challenge persons will and desires to let go.

However it is sometimes found through transparency that perhaps forgiveness no longer becomes second nature to ones thoughts, but rather a person can perceive notions within themselves that allow them to heal through acceptance versus forgiveness…

It is often stated by others that when they are able to let go things that keep them stuck, it resembles as a feeling of weight that has been lifted off ones shoulders. Having that weight lifted off ones shoulders can be a life changing experience, sighs of relief, finding peace within ones emotional and physical state.

Finding forgiveness is essentially an outcome we long to achieve. Where forgiveness might hinder someone’s ability to achieve this state of emotional and/or physical wellness, they may find the term “acceptance” to be effective approach towards forgiveness. Attain the ability to define oneself and to relieve an emotional state that may keep one stuck…

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